Let’s Talk About Toxic Emotions!
I’m going to be very straightforward, this blog post is predominately for women, sorry guys! Yes, guys have toxic emotions as well. But today, I am catering to females. However, I see that eye roll (insert a man’s name)- I will be posting a man inspired blog post as well!
As a clinician, it would be foolish to overlook the significant impact and influence psychological factors (thoughts and emotions) have on our immune system. The medical literature has overwhelming proven that psychological events alter brain and hormonal activities and to the surprise of many, the brain and endocrine systems have physical contact with each other and with the immune e system. What does this mean? Negative thoughts, emotions, actions, and situations can impact your physical well-being.
These toxic emotions are called stressors. A stressor is defined as “any sort of external or internal challenge that disrupts the physiological equilibrium or homeostasis of an individual.” Psychology and medicine define stress as anything that causes a stress response, eliciting a fight-flight response and/or an alarm reaction. For example, when you think about a situation where you were hurt or abused, do you feel emotional pain? Does your heart beat a little faster? THAT is stress.
A book written by Archibald Hart called Adrenaline and Stress, explains that stress begins in the mind but ends in the body. There is no such thing as stress only being in the mind. This means, there will be consequences in our physical bodies, due to negative thoughts or emotions. However, it’s important to realize that there are positive impacts with positive thoughts and emotions. Even more interesting is the discovery by Mason, in 1971, that different attitudes affect different immune cells in different ways, affecting how we respond to different invaders or antigens.
Did you know there is an association with autoimmune diseases and self-hatred? While we attack ourselves with our thoughts, words, or actions, we see a consistent conditioned autoimmune response potentially resulting in an autoimmune disease. Clinical research shows that specific negative emotions with self-bitterness are involved in the formation of auto-antibodies. According to scientific researcher, Singh, certain negative emotions elicit the body to produce specific auto-antibodies that only attack a specific cell or organ in our body.
Okay, I’m done slamming you with science. I now want to transition into a huge part of why women have toxic emotions and how to help. RELATIONSHIPS! Now, I’m not just talking about a relationship with your significant other. I’m talking ALL relationships- girl friends, guy friends, bosses, mother, mother-in-law, Susan from church- you get my drift. These all have either a positive or negative impact on your mental/emotional health, which correlates to your physical health, as stated above.
Do your girl friends empower and push you to do better and be better? Or do they nit pick on any and everything you do- to constantly cast shade and judgement? The people you surround yourself with have a HUGE impact on your life. I read a quote the other day saying, you are who you surround yourself with, and I couldn’t agree more. If your “friends” aren’t supporting your achievements, honey, they aren’t your true friends. Don’t keep toxic people in your life because “you’ve known them since childhood”. Cut. The. Cord.
Did you know that today, in 2019, on average, a woman working full time earns 80.7 cents for every dollar a man working full time earns? Do you think your boss undervalues you? Speak up- obviously in a professional and respectable manner. The other day I was talking to a mom friend who well deserved a raise, a raise that was long ago promised. She did her homework- comparable positions with comparable experience, went to a couple interviews, received other job offers, and presented this to her boss to show HER worth. He was thoroughly impressed. She left that office with the raise.
Empowered women empower women. Let’s spread love, not hate.
If you would like more information on what toxic emotions are doing to your health, don’t hesitate to contact us. After years of added stress, your hormones have taken the brunt, we are here to help them function correctly.
Referenced: INSIDER’S GUIDE TOXIC EMOTIONS By Ron Grisanti, D.C. & Dicken Weatherby, N.D.
Dr. Taryn Stittleburg, DC, CFMP, PSc.D