This morning, I came down the steps to, Derek, washing dishes, loading dishes, and starting breakfast. Immediately I was elated. I sat down on the island finishing some emails on my phone. He finished up the dishes, washed the sink, and started making our blueberry pancakes.
In that very moment, I couldn’t help but think about how grateful I am that he’s mine. How grateful I am that he respects my wants, cares for my needs, and helps me whenever he can.
That also made me think about never ending conversations I have about homelife stress.
I cannot tell you the amount of times I’ve had a conversation with whomever about, Derek, doing x,y,z around the house or with the kids followed up with a comment about ‘how lucky I am.'
This phrase sits uneasy to me for a lot of different reasons…
Now hold on, Karen, I am not being insensitive, I completely understand the hustle and bustle of life- school, sports, band, homework, reading, grocery shopping, laundry, housework, etc. It typically is a never-ending list.
However, recruiting help from your partner makes this list a lot more manageable.
Women are notoriously great at running things at home until they can no longer run anymore. Why at this point do we ask for help?
As women, our bodies were not and are not made to withstand the toxic cesspool of a world we live in. It’s engraved in us to do much more than we physically or mentally can, all with a smile, all while trying to be perfect. It’s engraved in us to order these toxic, miracle creams/serums to help make us feel young. It’s engraved in us that the social media world is real life. It’s engraved in us that this zombie, exhausted from sun up to sun down, mom lyfe thing is ‘normal’. Well, I’m here to tell you that that’s a bunch of crap.
Did you know that 75% of all autoimmune disorders are diagnosed with women? And that number continues to increase- as does female cancers.
What we put in our bodies matters.
No, I don’t mean just the food we are eating or the drinks we are drinking. I’m referring to all the negative energy that we consume- the gossip, the negative comments, the negative thoughts. All of it is breaking us down internally. Surround yourself with who brings peace and happiness to your life. I don’t care if you’ve been friends for 25 years- if you aren’t going to make yourself a priority, who is?
What we put on our bodies matters.
It’s getting to be the time of year again where extra lotion is needed. Before you grab that Bath & Body Works lotion, do your body a favor and toss it in the trash. Our makeup and skincare routines are FULL of toxins. All the while preaching natural or safe (insert eye roll emoji). Toxins that are linked to endocrine disruption, cancer, reproductive toxicity, neurotoxicity, and the list goes on. One that is very easy to spot and used often is ‘fragrance/parfum’. Anything with this listed in the ingredients deserves a spot in the trash.
You are doing so much better than you’re giving yourself credit for, Mama!
How can we change this?
#1 Give yourself the grace you deserve. No one is perfect.
#2 Have a respectful conversation about your needs.
#3 ASK FOR HELP!
#4 Love yourself.
#5 When you lay down for bed tonight, give yourself every positive affirmation you can possibly think of.
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As always, let's get back to health!
Dr. Taryn Stittleburg, DC, CFMP, PSc.D